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[muninsong]

Oh, my dear friends. I have a question for you. Is fourteen too young to have a boyfriend? Piper informed me tonight that one of her closest guy friends asked her to be his girlfriend today. As a parent, it makes me feel very VERY old (askjdfhasdfh birthday next month ;_;). I've always said kids are allowed to do things at a much younger age than they should be able to, but I've known this young man for a long time now (Piper's known him for close to seven years now, and I'm friends with the family). Is it such a bad thing?

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[esotaria.livejournal.com]

I wouldn't say it's too young. Especially since you've both known him for so long. I think so long as you set clear boundaries -- what your rules for physical intimacy are and why -- and so long as Piper feels comfortable (or, well, as comfortable as possible, which probably isn't much) talking to you about those rules, it's fine. So long as your rules are both firm and consistent, they'll give her a solid framework. The worst thing I've noticed for kids is to have rules they don't understand the purpose of applied inconsistently.

I would add, though, to take my opinion with a grain of salt as it is entirely theoretical and based off of things I've read and podcasts I've listened to. I've never had a boyfriend, nor has my brother ever had a girlfriend, so my personal experience with the ins & outs of teenage dating is practically non-existent.

[ajremix.livejournal.com]

I second everything said. Including, incidentally enough, everything in the second paragraph, including the brother and his lack of SO |D;;

[yeah-itsme.livejournal.com]

I guess I'm late in seeing this, but I think I was 14 when I had a 1st boyfriend. I was also a year or two ahead in school though, so it was a little different, but I think that 14 is fairly normal as a first foray into romance. As long as it stays pretty innocent for a while (which I remember my first relationship being) it should be okay, especially if you know him and are able to talk to them about boundaries and whatnot.